How can you ruin a date with just one word?

"Nigger"

Backstory: I've been going through an odd time in my life. I'm not so old that I am old, but I'm not so toung, that it isn't time to start thinking about taking the next step in life (kids, a wife, two cars, etc.). Alas, here I am, getting older by the day, and I literally haven't matured beyond nineteen. Seriously, I am mentally a nineteen year old

Seeing everyone grow up around me, finish college, and make that next step, all while I dream of quitting my job and doing come again, has given me a different outlook on life. I regret not being more outgoing, and thus, I have random bursts of positive energy, where I convince myself that nothing matters, and I need to be wild and spontaneous. This line of thinking manifested while on a date, recently.

For months, I'd been chasing this black girl I know. We'd talk for hours each night about all sorts of things. Aside from her easily likeable personality, she's so damn hot. She's got that light skinned "shot out white girl" look about her, that I fucking love!

About a week ago, I finally asked her out on a date, and kept telling myself to be spontaneous. When I get like this, I think things like "what if I just punch my boss in the face, right now... just give up and do it, man! What's the worst that can happen?", when I'm around black people, my thought process is "just call them a nigger, see what happens, what are they gonna do? Hit me?!".

We met at the restaurant and sat across from eachother, after a long day at work, and immediately after asking me how my day was, "nigger" slipped out of my mouth like uncontrollable, old southern vomit. I should have been a slave owner in that second.

Her mouth dropped open and she let out a scoff, followed by a slight grin.

"Really..." was the only thing that came out.

She then grabbed me by my hair and pullee across the table and began saying some outrageous shit about how fucking hot that was and how she wanted to fuck me right there and how she wanted "massa's dick", all while slapping me. God thank you we were in a secluded booth in a relatively empty place. This pristine, beautiful angel, turned into an old southern housemaid.

Embarrassed and hoping nobody saw it, I ran out of the restaurant and sped away. For the past five days, I've been getting nonstop, clingy and totally sexual text messages from this girl. It's caused me some severe anxiety and Just talking about it is making me sweat bullets. I haven't slept in the five days since it happened and don't know how to tell her I'm not interested.

That one simple word ruined the date and made me realize I dodged one, giant, clingy bullet.

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