heh that's true, I was thinking clickbait. Its not that I blame her, she has her own demons and from what I hear she "doesn't want to be with him" its him that wont leave her alone. I believe if I can convince him to leave her alone and get back on the path he was on everything would be better for everybody. Even he would be happier, surely it doesn't bring him joy to pursue a woman twice his age that doesn't want him? I don't know but I am coming the realization I can make a little more effort into getting through to him. Its hard because he has so many people in his life telling him "youre fucking up, don't do that, don't be a piece of shit" so I try to be that one person that doesn't just point out flaws, but its getting so bad so fast I need to start being a little more straight forward with him.