hey you're totally right on all but one point there. The money thing - is exactly what I was saying? We HAVE all paid equally for ourselves and I expect nothing from him and the whole reason for this post is because he suggested dinner so I am not in any way trying to or will even allow myself to be 'a moocher', I've literally written this because I'm well aware I need to say something before this dinner happens, and fyi its not as though i expected him to pay just because he suggested going for food, i declined because im a bit hard up on cash with it being near christmas and he said he would be paying. I'm not prepared to let that happen. I'm just genuinely so stressed and worried about what to say to him, sigh :(