How can I say yes more?

Do you want to do this because you feel you are missing out on something or do you want to do it because you feel you should?

It's funny, really. I used to have the same attitude until I couldn't handle the isolation that came with it anymore. This was in my twenties and thirties. My personality changed and now I am a nervous, anxious passive agressive milquetoast niceguy (at at my worst). I really hate it and I sometimes wish I could go back to being the snarky antisocial old_man_trouble of old.

As the top comment says: the first person to be comfortable with is you. And the first step to that could be to stop comparing yourself to others and find a state of congruence, where what you do and think and say fits who you are.

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