How comfortable are you around gay men?

I've been around gay men a lot in the past 3 years or so. I've been hit on, had my face caressed, been told I'd be a high value Bear, had offers to plunder my asshole. Etc. The full gambit.

And quite frankly, I'm really comfortable with it all. I'm secure in my sexuality, I know what I like (big butts and I cannot lie) and just tell the guys I'm straight and flattered and then see if they can wingman for me/need me to wingman for them.

My one friend is really good friends with a bunch of gay guys and I've been around them a lot. It's actually really good since they've helped me update my Tinder and Bumble profiles, and have acted as wingmen and are just all around cool dudes. It doesn't bother me one bit.

What bothers me is the gay guys who are super insecure about their sexuality. The ones you see prancing around trying to be as flamboyant as possible since that's what they think being gay means, instead of accepting that they're gay guys who can do whatever, or whoever they want.

They bother, not because of the sexual orientation, but rather because they're insecure and more likely to go after other people in mean ways. They're the kind of guys who will criticize a straight guy for the way he dresses and perpetuate negative stereotypes of gay and straight guys, and then at the end of night cry because he feels like he can't be the mechanic he wants to be.

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