This is my story: I'm new to reddit, and to r/borrow. I came here because I'm in a difficult position and after contacting a few lenders by private message and explaining my situation as best as I could, I got the feeling that they thought it was a scam. I understand that and I'm not blaming anyone, I think it was my fault because I sounded so desperate and I was asking for a high amount if you think about it. I have a decent job as a payroll administrator and I just wanted a chance to get myself back on track. I wanted for someone to look at my ID, my Paystubs, Pictures, they could have called my job, called the bank, verify any information that I was providing, but not one person accepted. Of the 5 lenders I contacted only 2 responded to me, and both of them made me feel I was no good, without knowing what kind of person I'm. I had always work hard my whole life since I was 17, I have never taken anything for granted. I took care of my Dad when he was battling Alzheimer until he died, I took care of my Mom when she got sick, I drained my savings, my 401K, I lost my house, I'm going through a divorce but I'm trying to get back on my feet, and I know in my heart that I would do it. Yesterday when I left I was despondent, I wanted to end it all, but I always go back to a cup that a friend of mine gave me a few months ago with a simple message that said: "“Life is all about how you handle Plan B”. “Plan A is always my first choice. You know the one where everything works out to be happily ever after. But more often than not I find myself dealing with the upside-down, inside-out version where nothing goes as it should. It’s at this point the real test of my character comes in…. Do I sink or do I swim? Do I wallow in self-pity and play the victim or do I shift gears and make the best of the situation? The choice is mine, after all… life is all about how you handle plan B”. I always like to think that life is like a wheel, sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down, so in writing this my objective is how to create a community where we can trust each other, any ideas, thoughts on this? I would love to hear from you. Have a wonderful day wherever you are!!!