How do you deal when both sides are hesitant to move

for almost 8 years now, we’ve visited 8 times and overall it’s fantastic

What was the longest time you've actually spent together? Do you have the opportunity to do some work and travel together for a year to live together for a good amount of time to see if you're really compatible?

Should one of us just make the plunge? I can’t imagine having anybody else for my future but the idea of having to completely flip my life upside down is scary and stressful :(

You really need to sit down and come up with a list of factors you want to consider in your decision (e.g. careers, lifestyle, finances, family...). You also need to discuss worst case scenarios. What happens if either of you isn't happy where you live?

/r/LongDistance Thread