How do you deal with this?

I am sorry that you are having a hard time. Try to remember that everyone has pain of some kind and you cannot necessarily see it. You are not alone. Infertility is just one kind of pain.

Same goes for relationships... there are plenty of crappy ones out there. It took me a long road to be in a happy relationship and even then my relationship is imperfect. I got there by valuing myself, refusing to accept/ make excuses for poor behaviour and reframing how I think about some of the otherwise negative aspects of being in a relationship. Good communication is important too.

There are people out there who do not want children or do not want more children. It sounds horrible but they actually believe that infertility is an advantage. Try to reframe how you see yourself. What are all of the wonderful things about being in a relationship with you?

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