Do you avoid the discussion of it?
Yeah, cause it just turns into a ego thing, neither of us want a number bigger than 0.
Do you find out every detail?
that would be just cruel and masochistic, no emotionally healty person would submit the one they love to that anguish. Just do some rough BDSM it will heal faster and not leave any long lasting emotional trauma.
Did you state to her what your position was on the matter?
Nah, I just lie, like everyone does. If she insists I actually make fun of her so much that she avoids the subject.
I am not sure if every guy feels this way but, upon hearing any sort of detail of a girls sexual past annoys me
You don't say, it's like you are a territorial beast that doesn't like simulations of his loved one being penetrated by other beasts.
I understand I should not be upset or annoyed by it,
Yes you should. That is your woman in that instance. Your emotional brain does not understand the meaning of "past". If you introduce a notion, it will be procesed as a real time event.
Why is it such a problem for the male ego?
It's human ego, the main problem is that the average woman is way more adventurous than the average guy and the performers of both genders know how to shut the fuck up.
I am in now I should feel extrmely grateful considering she has had 3 sexual partners in her life and my mind doesnt have to wander too much but shes let things slip that has made me more aware of her past. I know more specific details about her than chicks I've dated who have had 30+ partners and its irritating as fuck.
always assume she is a slut, seriously stop dreaming virgins, sans social judgement she wants to be a slut(true that means different things for different people) but no girl wants to get in a relationship and be worshiped like a vestal virgin. This will make getting laid easier, the women in your life don't have to play prude and can actually let loose around you, the sex will be better because you won't be afraid you'll break them.
3 or 30, doesn't matter, on average sex is bland. You only need one man to show her what her body is capable of and you will feel insufficient. Sorry, this is true, we all fuck differently and some things just click. This does not mean she doesn't love you or you need dick training. It might just be a pheromone thing. The best thing you can do is improve, become attractive, more so if you are already fuckable. Ask her to become atractive(sorry ladies but this matters as well both for your confidence and your partners sexuality). And evolve your sexuality together. You'll be having better sex in a year and amazing sex in 5 if you keep it frisky and become that "perfect" looking couple insecure women hate. And when you are having amazing sex with a hot SO you love, you won. The others stop being important.(unless you try some swinging or shit like that, that will fuck you up)