Honor all the parts of yourself that you made small to accommodate him. Your “trash” taste in music and movies? Blare the songs he ridiculed and watch what he dismissed as “pedestrian pandering.” All the curse words you stopped saying should flow freely; all the niche interests he dismissed as childish should be indulged; all the accomplishments you minimized should get plastered on social media; all the “crunchy hippie” food you cooked that he wouldn’t eat because it might kill him to consume a vegetable will look great on instagram.

Don’t get unhealthy if you dropped bad habits— but realize that while impressing him might have been your inspiration, you’re the one who went through the diet/exercise/not drinking/smoking/whatever, and you’re the one who accomplished it. And realize that maybe, regardless of how great he thinks he is and how much of a favor he thought he was doing you, it’s not about not being “good enough” for him; it’s about not being right for each other.