I have a scheduled day once a week that I talk to both of my parents. They aren't necessarily bad people and it's not like we have bad blood, they just don't really value family closeness/relationships like a lot of other families I see. They are just kind of recluses in general. My mom's side of the family is pretty toxic and it's affected both of them so I kinda understand why they just try to do their own thing these days.

It hurts my feelings and I have definitely waited to see how long it would take them to call or visit me if I didn't initiate it in the past just to get really hurt. But I've kinda just accepted that's who they are, and call them once a week and send them the occasional picture because I don't want to regret not at least trying once they've passed.