How do you deal with the intense feeling of being abandoned?

Do you think that your fear of abandonment is the real reason why you have stayed with him for so long while struggling so hard until you reached your breaking point? From personal experience I know that leaving someone who is not compatible with me has been as frightning as being left by them .. and this fear has kept me in abusive relationships.

Your fear is also an attachment issue. You might want to look it up, it is important to know and understand your attachment style and your partner's when you are struggling with abandonment fears. You might have an anxious-preoccupied attachment. They might have an avoidant-dismissive. There are free tests online you could try.

At the time I didn't have access to therapy. But I got some relief from Bach Flower Essences if you have heard about them. I used a remedy called Mimulus for my abandonment fear and it lowered my fear so much that I was able to think rationally about the situation and take steps to change it. The Rescue Essence together with Mimulus might possibly be of great help for you now. These remedies are inexpensive and available everywhere on the web and in many drug stores and whole food stores.

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