How do you deal with loneliness?

I don't usually say this and by usually I mean never but i'm going to do you a solid if it'll help you out. I'm homeless, wifi is rad huh, I don't got anything to my name, I lost everything last year. And this is the happiest i've ever been, it's crazy that I once had so much but was completely miserable. It took me to lose everything to gain sight of what matters. Objectively i'm in a bad rut but for once in my life I don't feel lost, I know what i'm passionate about now, I know what I want for myself and my future, I know what kind of people matter and everyday now i'm actively working towards the path that'll fulfill me in life. I'm no longer trapped by the confinements of peer pressure, societal pressure, pressure from friends and family. People make it hard for you live, especially certain friends but you personally make it the hardest. I learned to live my life for myself and for nobody else, people who want to truly be my friends will make it work and find time for me and I for them, friends/relationships who are happy will share that happiness with you unconditionally and you for them. Good people are truly hard to come by and as I say, good people are a treasure, rare and hard to find and when they come by hold them dear and that's how you have to see it, it's not about having many friends, or this or that person as a friend, it's about living for yourself and being happy with how you have it, being able to appreciate while having nothing and if good people come into your life they are a bonus not a guarantee. You can't force things to happen, you have no control over nothing, but if you do right by others and do right by you, time will be a good friend.

I'm pretty happy with what I got because because nothing is slowly me down anymore, there's no excuses, no pressure, I wanted to live and people who "cared" wouldn't let me so now they're are gone now because of me but because they never wanted to understand and disappeared on their own.

I hope it doesn't take what happened to me to happen to you. But I see reality now stranger and you need to too. People are shackles. Going to therapy, possibly seeing a psych for you to figure yourself out can do wonders, you need to find a way to be ok alone because from that point anything else is extra and you'll be able to find happiness or whole lot easier. You need guidance, people who are depressed are lost, hence why it's called guidance. I hope you listen because it can be the start of that happiness you want that you think others have but they don't, the luxuries, the big circle of people around them, it's all smoke and mirrors.

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