So instead of hooking up with a younger in shape dude- what do you do to channel that? How do you not do it and just "cope" with your son's dad looking the way he does? I'm sure he has great other features, yadda yadda.. but I mean day to day. How do you make the feeling go away of looking at them and thinking they look fat and unappealing? We should never think of our partners that way, sure sure, but this is real life. Lets be honest. It's an anonymous internet forum. I came here for some real answers- not stock stuff that all my friends say.

But to your first point, yeah not totally cool of her to go back on that- I feel that's almost a betrayal. I know things happen but where do you draw the line? Obviously I can't just say that to her because it's socially unacceptable to call a woman fat.

I'm not saying I am this 100% dashing catch but I am fit, thin and in shape- Healthy too- not just starving myself. I earn looking the way I do with a small percentage of help from metabolism