This happened when I was still rather young. I walked her home. I told her how much I liked her. She said that she was aware of it, that's it. I figured that was the end of it. We stayed friends. We become very close friends over the next few years. I mean, we'd hang out every few days. At least once a week. She'd travel an hour by train just to see me. This went on for years. Then out of nowhere, she dissapeared out of my life. I kept trying to text her and call her like we used to. I think that the next month orso, I tried to meet up with her again to see what was going on. I was frankly even a bit worried. Ultimately, I just gave up. I really did like her, so it wasn't easy.

Fast forward one year. I'm at the same bar as her and I'm having fun with my friends. She is there with her new boyfriend, but he is at another table with his friends. She comes sit with us. She suddenly starts telling me how she wish things could have been different and how she would totally date me. This just pissed me off, but I decided to just ignore it. Had fun that night, got a bit drunk.

We don't see eachother for another few years. I run into her at another bar. It's nice to see her. She then says how she is sorry how things ended but that, in her defense, I got a bit "stalky". I just told her that she dropped our friendship out of nowhere and that she shouldn't try to pin that on me. I walked off and never really spoke to her again. I met her a few times again through a mutual friend. She always tried to rekindle the friendship, but I couldn't bring myself to be anything but distant towards her. She is happily married now and I'm happy for her. I just really don't like her any more.

I had something similar happen more recently. I fell in love with a girl and she fell in love with me. We had an amazing time together. The problem is that she lives pretty far. So the distance was too much for and she got together with her ex-boyfriend again. She wants to stay in touch and stay friends. So I try, eventhough it's difficult. We are like two peas in a pod for a year. She becomes one of my closest friends, eventhough we sometimes almost cross the "friendship" line. We get way too close and she starts lamenting about how she wish things were different. The next day, she suddenly dissapears without a word of warning. Turns out that she is getting married. I suspect that she liked me a bit too much to remain friends, but she could have just told me.

Now I get that both girls were probably just confused and didn't meant to hurt me, but I just can't feel anything positive for them any more. You don't treat people like that. I forgive them, but I simply don't want them anywhere near my life anymore. I'm glad this happened though, I had to learn how to stop caring about people who didn't want me to. I think that's an important lesson for any adult.

I'm older now and I now know exactly what I'm looking for, partially thanks to them. I want a strong woman who knows what she wants. Someone who thinks that I'm worth giving it all for. I'll find a woman like that and I'm having fun in the meantime. It's pretty fun to be single in a big city.