You are right, this is exactly true. Someone has passed judgment and it will not change until circumstances change. This really explains why women's perception of me sharply changes when they find out what I do for a living or they find my address (then they become really interested in me to "meet up for dinner").

So then the question becomes how do you showcase your value without showing your hand? It seems VERY showy in my opinion. Finding women who can read between the lines or gauge your worth WITHOUT knowing everything seems basically impossible. "Coming on strong" and directly rarely works unless you try to "flex" and then certainly will attract the gold diggers.