How do you feel about not telling someone WHY you ghost on them?

Dating can be complicated and ghosting happens, it's a standard part of putting yourself out there. More so with online dating; I think it's important to keep in mind that at the end of the day, no one owes you anything just like you don't owe anyone anything.

That being said, I will not do something to someone that I would not like to be done to myself. I had a recent situation reinforce my opinion on the matter: A guy and I started what I felt was a good back and forth until one day he stopped the conversation. A week goes by, and then he massages me that he has been very busy and gives me his phone number to text him. I get the busy part, so I shoot him a text, we talk very briefly and then he stopped the conversation again. I was confused, but like I said, no one owes you anything. For me, I always let people know. It just feels like the right and correct thing to do is to tell that person you lost interest rather than to ghost.

Regarding the feedback part: One of the reasons why people don't like giving feedback is because they don't like confrontation and telling someone why they are not your cup of tea can be very awkward for them. As a result, it's just easier for them to not say anything at all.

In my case, if they ask, I always provide them with an answer. Even if I feel that person will not handle it well. I have never had an issue with confrontation, but more importantly, I provide feedback because I can understand the reason behind asking for it. After all, it's human nature to want to know why things did not go the way we wanted them to. I also think feedback provides that person with a sense of closure, which then helps do what they need to do: move on.

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