Hey thanks for the response.

I don't know if this context is appropriate but it's like this:

nmom has concerned herself with my future and has been putting out feelers for jobs. This relative works at a hospital and nmom said the person suggested I call. nmom also has a habit of lying and omitting key pieces of information (ie. the last time she forced me out to see about a job I was woefully unprepared because they requested my CV and immediately put me on the spot with an interview; minor things like I asked her about the subject of an article and she gave me his biography, but somehow declined to mention that he was missing).

I've tried to drill her on what exactly happened but she keeps saying things like "I don't know what kind of jobs are available/even if she told me I wouldn't understand" "I don't know what you're studying" - which is BS because she snoops through my things on a regular basis. This also makes me paranoid because if she's so concerned about my earning potential, she would be all over it. So I'm wondering what she isn't telling me.

The problem I originally wrote about -I don't know the relative very well. I feel guilty for only contacting people and using people's names only when I need something. I actually stopped doing favors for my family because I hate the way they treat me.

Whenever she gets nosy about my future, I feelan immediate increase of anxiety because I've been eating up money since I was born. I'm not sure I can pay everyone back. They expect me to go to grad school but I feel like I can't do that without the emotional support I need. Basically I feel like I need a goodpaying job, as well as one I might enjoy so it won't add more stress to my life.

Sorry for the rant. This is causing me a lot of anxiety.