How do you make friends as an adult when you're no longer in school?

I have one, from the past decade. It’s the reverse.

I look very young for my age, like almost 50, but can still pass even now for 20’s. I’m long married, and am not into younger ladies (I like boring conversation).

Anyways, almost every week, I’m out and about, and some young lady (other ages, too) will start talking to me. I’m a relaxed type of guy, who can talk usually about anything to anyone (even if I don’t want to or it doesn’t really interest me). Usually, I could tell halfway through a conversation what their intentions are, and sometimes if it goes on too long, I’ll tug at my wedding ring. If it continues, I politely say thank you, but I’m married. That doesn’t always do it. Then I move on to I’m old enough to be your dad, but I look younger. That also doesn’t always do it, either. So, every once in a while then I’ll ask why are you still interested? Generally, I’ll get some variation of your nice or you’re hot or you seem fun and confident...

Now I’d like to say that I’m a saint, but I’m definitely not. Although, I can say I’ve never cheated on my wife... I certainly don’t mind the attention. But, I do mind is when it crosses over a line or two, when I’ve drawn a line in the sand, metaphorically. Now, I know I’m a good looking guy and this isn’t supposed to be a story to humble brag. It’s just another side of perspective. I’ve been surprised many time’s, at how aggressive younger women have been with ME.

It’s definitely interesting, when I hear from other friends that are either married or single, that they find it difficult to engage in conversations or make new friends OR find partners (of various appropriate ages).

I’ve never had this issue, it’s been the opposite. Thankful, my wife is now bemused when she sees it. She’s make fun of the ladies after they head off or lean over and say ‘they weren’t being friendly or nice... She / they wanted to sleep with you.’ I’ll go ‘good for them, but I’m already taken, and live my wife.’

Then she gives me the most happy beautiful smile, and I’m even more in love with her. I’m a lucky fella.

Anyways, sometimes less attention or interaction with any aged ‘other’ person is better. But, hey, I’m just on one side of the fence.

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