I wrote an article today that might help you. But entire books have been written on this subject, do some research. I suggest models by Mark Manson.

*Face your fear of approaching women * "You do the thing you're scared shitless of and you get the courage after you do it, not before you do it."

While writing this I just heard a group of girls laughing on the back deck next door. I thought "Hey! I should go say hey and ask them if they want to hang out".

So I got my shorts on and my shoes on, and then I started to get nervous. I could feel my heart thumping in my chest. I got my wallet and keys, just in case they did invite me over and my heart's still thumping.

I go outside the back door and see a group of 4 girls, one of whom glances up at me, and my voice dies in my throat. I start to rationalize that they're too far away. I pretend that I was just going out to check out the plants. I go inside and get a glass of water. And then guess when I did, I went back out and said "Hey, I just heard you talking and thought I should introduce myself because I'm your neighbor". My voice is shaky and my smile is quavering.

They introduce themselves and say it's nice to meet me. I tell them it was nice to meet them and wish them a good night (it's Friday). I decided it was not a good time to ask them if they want to hang out. Was that so painful? No. And it didn't lead to anything tonight, but I'm sure I'll see them around again. Now after I've talked to them I feel great! It's just like George Clooney says in the movie The Three Kings

"You do the thing you're scared shitless of and you get the courage after you do it, not before you do it."

I could have said that they're just having a girls night and I'll talk to them when it's more convenient. Then I could go back to my computer while hearing their inviting laughter and live my whole life alone.

Okay. But what's the real reason I subject myself to this torture?

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The biggest reason why you should talk to strangers is because if you do it again and again, you'll become desensitized to it.

Then when you're in the supermarket line and there's a beautiful girl standing behind you, you'll start talking to her. Because it would be rude not too.

And maybe it'll lead to something and maybe it won't, but if you do it enough it will always lead to something. You may become great friends with people who used to be strangers, or you may fall in love.

You know that gorgeous woman you saw walking down the street a few days ago? What if I told you you could have gone up to her, told her you think she's the most beautiful thing on this earth and then wish her a good day, or get her number.

She might be married or not interested and say "That's totally fine!" and wish her a good day. And maybe, maybe she might be interested in you. Gasp!

That's right! Some women might actually like you! And if she does say that she's not interested, then you'll have brightened her day.

Imagine you're walking down the street and some girl comes up and says "OMG! You're so hot!" and you thank her, but you say that you're in a relationship. She wishes you a good day and you part ways.

How are you going to feel after this? You're gonna feel like a million dollars! There's going to be a bounce in your step when you leave. It's the same with women.