How do you know if you're meant to be in a relationship with someone or meant to be single?

Ask yourself...

  • Do you feel drained and unhappy whenever you're in a relationship, no matter how good it is? Do you have any idea why that is?

  • When you're in a relationship, and you envision the future, does it include the person you're with (whether it includes marriage or not)? Or do they involve you, but not him/her? Do you frequently fantasize about being single or dating around?

  • Are you in this relationship because you want to be, and you love the person you're with, or because you're afraid of being alone/you feel pressured to be in a relationship/etc.?

  • If you want to get married, do you think about what married life might be like, or just the wedding day?

  • Does the thought of any kind of physical intimacy repulse you?

  • Do you end up (subconsciously) sabotaging the relationship, because you don't really want to be in one?

  • Have you noticed patterns in your previous relationships?

  • Are you looking to fill a (real or imagined) void in your life?

  • Are you avoiding relationships because you're afraid of being hurt?

  • Do you find yourself suppressing your true self and neglecting your needs in a relationship?

  • Who are you outside of a relationship?

/r/AskWomen Thread