I realized I wasn't cis 7 years ago, but I thought myself to be agender up until about a year ago. I think that was mainly because I was still recovering from a very regressive cult with how it defined gender so for years I was confused on what gender even meant - like I knew 7 years ago it wasn't how that cult raised me to believe, but I still couldn't really graph it until a year ago. But while I didn't grasp it I just figured I couldn't have a gender, for if I don't know what it was I couldn't have one, or so my thought process was, and I found the term agender and thought that most sense to self-identify as.

A year ago is when everything clicked and I realized I definitely am a woman. So depending on which point counts, it could be nearly 7 years or nearly 1 year because I just started HRT about a month ago. I figured out this was the right time because I had finally moved away from the unsafe place I loved in before that would have had a lot of people part of that cult living there, which I could never feel safe to transition in that area.