ofc no problem!! it really depends, every situation and person is different. a person can get better only if they want to; but it’s not as easy as it sounds. there has to be a lot of work around it: a support system, therapy, self-help involved, changing of coping mechanisms , etc. changes don’t happen fast, they take from months to years depending on every case, because when you change something, you need to open and break a generational trauma, destroy an habit, change coping mechanisms, etc. you need to get a lot of self-awareness first of your actions in order to change them.

just an example, when i got diagnosed with bpd at age 18, it took me 4 years to see actual changes and ive been going to therapy since age 12. it was exhausting, tiring, i burned out for years. thankfully my partner supported me through the whole way but i never disrespected him through our whole relationship and i was always willing to work on myself – mental and physical health. time paid off and im finally in a very good place mentally and emotionally.

just to add, i went to school for psychology but i work in something not related at all! so shoot me any message if you need to and im happy to help :)