He says sometimes he can and sometimes he can't get an erection with porn. Clearly at some point he is.... but because of death grip and the extreme porn he is now into, my hands and my mouth do nothing for him, and forget my girl - fucking me wilts him instantly. He never, ever had ED when I gave him oral. Not until two months ago; I woke him up for a midnight bj because I was horny and depressed, I didn't even care if I had sex, I just was feeling sexual.

He first acted shocked I wanted to touch him, and then... nothing. No matter what I did.

I thought it was me, but now I know he literally cannot be stimulated by me physically. Even when he wanted to try some dom/sub stuff and I agreed, he lost his erection when I touched him and only orgasmed when he touched himself.

He was watching porn this weekend, it was all girls giving bj's and getting anal. He was swapping pictures with a woman (or - so he says). Maybe he's bi.

Also, as you said, that's his 'new thing' - even though anal was part of of our normal sex - he wants 'heavy anal' - whatever the fuck that means - and he wants to be a sub, wants to be degraded. And yes, mentioned me deep throating him but with his issues I have done that in the past - and no, thanks, I don't want to be choked with his dick or hands.

Really, I can't type any more. I hate him.