I’ve seen this advice a lot and I think it’s generally true and it’s often true for my girlfriend. However it’s one thing knowing it and another implementing it. Because we’re in long distance relationship and I can’t just give her a hug or make her food or anything like that I feel like I have to compensate by asking questions or try to fix something. When that probably only makes it look like I think she can’t do things by herself. I find that these issues often resolve themselves within a few days but I’m so uncomfortable with seeing my partner feel bad that I go overboard. I need to be more patient and understanding seeing my partner feel bad sometimes and know that there’s sometimes nothing I can really do but listen. I’m working on resolving it. I’ll check out that book!