I am so sorry for this. When I was being covertly sexually abused by my Nmom, she said this on a handful of occasions that, if a normie said it might have been nothing too terrible or even a little appropriate for the situation, but coming from my mom? It was so ironic! I remember once she said this when she picked me up from a movie with my girlfriend and slut shamed me for "too much PDA" when she rolled up and saw me kiss her, and said "how do you think that makes me look?! Like she was a perfect woman. As if I was trying to get laid in public, and I thought," Well, I think that your image of virginal purity might really go out the window if folks knew you were in the routine of making your teen son give you back rubs where you take your top off with no bra and see through panties under your nightie. Or the other one I remember is, her using that line because, believe it or not, I was dating a girl who was a whopping two years younger than I was and told me that physical affection was "taking advantage", as if I was a cradle robber and I thought, "well, your son is seventeen years younger than you, and you feel that you can frequently "accidentally" flash your genitals for him to see, and that you are constantly trying to find a way to see his genitals because you're his mom, so how would you look then? I don't think I have EVER used this bullshit with my children. I think it's fucking antithetical to right parenting, which would most likely ask something like, "how do you think this affects your overall health and well-being?". "Does this make you look every bit of the incomparable person you are?"