Here is a proverb describing the situation that has been the historical norm: "If you don’t initiate your young men into the tribe, they will burn down the village."

If you divide men into loser or winner and then blame the "loser" as is illustrated both by your posts and this thread is it any wonder they say fuck this and burn the village down? You are literally shoving them out of the village because they are "weird" or like things you don't like or don't care about and then wondering why after the ostracization they lose it and come back to burn it down.

And yet again it is not about sex it is about relationships and lack of companionship and warmth which when combined with the social standard and gender role shoved on men being that they can only get those things from women because mens gender roles are stuck in the 1940s is it any wonder this happens?

If you want them to stop burning the village down stop being an asshole to them and also stop kicking them out and instead at least start treating them better.