I married at 29, but I think the DB started prior to that. Spent my 30s feeling very depressed. It reached critical levels at age 39, but I decided that I wanted to live. Began making improvements in my life and working to improve the relationship with my wife. Progress has been slow, but steady. The sex life has gotten better too, but we have concluded that she is asexual and always has been. Things are never going to get to a point that I am happy with.

I've suggested we try some sort of open relationship to pick up the slack, but she wants nothing to do with that. We are currently in counseling. At some point I must decide if I want to accept what I have or start over and try for something better. I'm 42 now. If I was going to try the start over route, I would have preferred to do that when I was 35 and still had some life ahead of me.

It's getting late in life to start over, and it's getting late to have a good sex life. Based on my recent observations, the window for that has already begun to close. I think I've already lost.