How much does sexual compatibility impact marriage?

You very closely described my first marriage.

She was raised Catholic and I Methodist and I thought her lack of interest in sex was due to her religious upbringing and thought it would get better once we were married. It didn't.

Years later she told me sex for her was like doing the dishes and she could go without it. We are talking just regular sex and nothing wild.

We started to have other issues in our marriage and I ended up not being faithful to her and we divorced.

I got remarried late last year to a very much different woman. She knows about my past infidelity and what all led up to it. She and I have a very much different sex life but I knew that would be the case based on what sex was like for us while dating.

I would strongly suggest working out any sex related issues before getting married. Married life only gets more challenging once the honeymoon period wears off and the stress of careers, kids, mortgage, etc add up.

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