When I see a guy who is on the cubbier side, or is clearly obese a few things jump to mind. That tells me he doesn’t keep himself healthy, he doesn’t try to better himself, he doesn’t push himself to achieve goals.

Those things are true about me and I need to change. But to me I always found this argument about why someone doesn’t find fat people to be attractive to basically be a PC response to not offend anyone. Like if you found a big guy physically attractive already, would you even care about him not keeping himself healthy or him not pushing himself? I mean if a guy could get jacked by going in a chamber or getting injected with a serum and not touch a single weight or change his diet, like the extremely skinny Chris Evans did in Captain America, would you care if he didn’t push himself?

I understand that everyone has a different situation, and some are valid medical ones but a good majority of the time I believe are people who over eat, don’t exercise or maintain a healthy eating diet.

Why would I date someone who can’t look after themselves or respect their health? That’s the subconscious thinking that goes on for me anyway. I don’t want to sound judgemental, I’m simply saying my thought process.

You are entitled to be attracted to what you’re attracted to.

Everyone is different and some people may not think this way, it may not bother some people. But for me, this is it. It doesn’t mean you’re a shit person or have a bad personality, it’s just one way of showing how you respect yourself without saying it.

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The same way you may notice someone clearly smells bad or doesn’t maintain themselves. Beards, hair etc. There is value in showing that you can dress yourself, smell good, and be somewhat healthy. You don’t need to be an athlete, you just need to clearly try.

I think things like hygiene and fashion aren’t the same as fitness since those things are way simpler than getting and maintaining a nice body. It’s easy to shower and brush your teeth everyday.