Women feel the same on the other side too, that we are not intrinsically lovable, only lovable based on their looks and that still haunts us and follows us even when we find someone.

Dating is tough. It really is a slog, just remember that you are 100% not the only one feeling this way. Just try to turn it around that if someone isn't interested in you for whatever reason then it is better to know asap so you don't waste another moment on them. try to just have fun and let go of the expectations and think about dating as your discovery of people rather than hoping the next one is "the one". I found that really helped me, but this thought approach only really sunk in when I reached my 30s. Love yourself and never let anyone make you feel you aren't worth being love, if they do, get them out of your life asap!