How to not give a fuck and accept that I am an average looking girl

You're so fixated on what you don't have that you completely ignore what you could be capable of.

Obviously, your hot friends are going to do better than you. Obviously people are shallow. Obviously you want to match with someone jacked.

That's ok. You aren't owed anything, and seeing yourself as a victim of circumstance robs you of all that you could accomplish.

Other people are going to do the best they can for themselves. You should too.

No one's stopping you from approaching someone you find attractive out in the real world.

No one's stopping you from changing your diet or workouts.

No one's keeping you from cultivating hobbies or meeting new people or dressing differently or getting educated or going after an ambitious job, or learning to be more outgoing.

If anyone is stopping you- it's you.

Not giving a fuck means you give yourself permission despite all the shit you wrote up there. It means going after what you want when it's scary and awkward and uncomfortable-- because you don't give a fuck, remember?

Right now you're doing the opposite of giving yourself permission. You're asking us to give you permission. That's your job!

Understand- You'll wait decades and decades hoping for some extraordinary person to come into your life or some magical transformational thing to happen to you.

It will not come. If you want extraordinary moments in your life- you have to cause them.

Go after what you want and luck, that fickle bitch, will meet you halfway when she's good and ready.

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