If women only wanted the top 20% of men, then the majority of men would be virgins/incels. Men who are incels or virgins past their late teens are a minority, and ended up that way because of their own problems.

I'm 25 and I've got nothing. Never had sex, never dated, never even kissed a girl. And it's my own fault. I was a socially awkward fat kid who didn't like sports or anything considered "normal" (I lost weight in middle school, but got fat again in high school). Girls would often call me ugly and were repulsed by the idea of dating me, so I never asked any girls out because I was certain that they'd reject me and I didn't want to get made fun of for striking out. For years, I blamed it on my looks. But there were guys in my school who were way uglier than me who were able to get girlfriends. The only one of my crushes that I had the guts to openly make moves on (she was average-looking at best and I thought I'd have a better chance with her) rejected me for a guy who makes me look like a male model in comparison. Then, I blamed it on my race since my dad was (he's dead) black and I live in the South where there are a lot of racists. But the few other black kids had no trouble. Heck, there was one pretty black girl who I'm almost certain liked me, but I was a self-hating racist and didn't want to date a black girl. And she wasn't the only one. There are many girls who, looking back, probably had crushes on me, but I never made a move. I couldn't tell if they were flirting or just being friendly. The only girls who I could tell were hitting on me were the ugly white trash girls and I rejected them because I had standards. I didn't go to college, so that's another missed opportunity for me to get somewhere with girls.

There are no such things as incels in my opinion, only awkward guys with too high standards. If you really wanted to get a girlfriend or just get laid, you could try going after a girl in your league or hiring a prostitute. I haven't done either because I'm not attracted to girls in my league (I'll have to either learn to settle or become more attractive) and I know that I wouldn't enjoy the sex with a prostitute knowing that the only reason she's doing it because I'm paying her. I want a girl who's doing because she wants to, not because she needs rent money.

While it's going to be very hard for me to get out of my current predicament, I believe it can be done. Maybe I'm wrong, but I don't want to spend the rest of my life hating women.