This was my policy from the very beginning. I had a good friend who always spoke terribly about her husband (not abuse) and not only does it influence how others see your partner but also how you see them. I decided then and there that I would deal with the negative stuff and talk about the positive.

Negative reinforcement has a significant impact on the way our brain works. If you say "I'm so stupid" often enough soon you won't be able to see yourself as anything but. Same goes for your husband, negative talk becomes your reality and if you put him down often enough to others then soon when you look at your husband that is all you will see.