How do I get out of Fi-Si loop?

What helped me most was by taking action to improve whatever it was that bothered me. I also like to pamper myself to feel better. It's really important for me to eat and sleep regularly. I would go to my friends, family, and significant other for emotional support. I also like to google and read about people who also went through whatever unpleasant situation was bothering me. It's nice reading how other people went through similar events in the past even if I didn't know them. I also like to wallow in my negative emotions for short periods of time privately. I would also focus on art or expressing myself: origami, drawing, writing fiction, journaling, poetry. Sometimes I like to reflect on what I would do if something similar happened again, or what I could do to ensure a similar event didn't occur once more. I also like escapism: reading my favourite novels/manhwa or even daydreaming. But distractions and escapism is temporary. What helps me permanently is taking action to resolve whatever is bothering me.

I don't really think there's anything wrong with Fi-Si loop. It just means I care about something that happened a lot, that's why it affected me so. That I just need some time off from the stress and overwhelming feelings. That it's a signal that I need to take better care of myself. That I need to step up. Sometimes, it is even a signal for change. That it could be time to end something I would rather not: whether it be an incompatible relationship, or a job that is no longer fulfilling. Sometimes it also signals to me to have a difficulty conversation or to confront someone about something. I dislike conflict so I have to force myself to talk to people about things and clear the air.

The other thing that helps me is keeping a life journal. I check and update it once a year. I try to keep the words short and simple. It's mostly just about achievements I felt proud of. Sometimes I also write a short note about life challenges I overcame or major life events.

Another thing that helps me is to just keep doing stuff that makes me feel happy.

You will have to figure out by yourself what helps you most.

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