It is sad these things happen.. But thank you for your insight I feel like I am in the same situation as you were. The no contact is so important but so painfull. And I thought it was wrong for me to not trust him anymore about the things he says. He keeps saying that I can trust him, but that is damn hard after doing this. The part of you being upset about her making such a redical decision I so agree. Like why did you not try, why dont you want to overcome the hardship together, why you just let me go. He says he is also really hurt over the break up but he couldnt be in a relationship with me anymore. Like what you say throwing away something invaluable that you shared. I am happy to read this I am not completly unreasonable of thinking these things. Also my ex believes the same, but I believe more that the decision you makes effects the future. And not if theings are meant to be it will happen. So he decided to break up on a such hurtfull way that because of his choice he excluded the possibility of ever getting back together even if we were meant to be. Is this unreasable to think about?

How did you that no contact for such a long time? He was for the relationship such a good friend with whom I had a special band and it is so painfull that it is all gone. I wanted him to be the one I could go to talk about these things just like what I do with my other friends, but I cant talk to him..

How do you feel now? How is this affecting you with trust and possible future relationships?