Try to accept that men have a built in reproductive strategy - basically we are programmed that the best way to guarantee that our dna gets into the future is to have as many sexual partners as possible. It’s a compulsion inherent in the male condition. Porn is the obvious expression of this compulsion - an endless parade of available females. Women have a different reproductive strategy - this strategy expresses itself in the countless “love stories” out there - romance novels - fairy tales - romcoms - all ending in the heroine locking down her dream guy and living happily ever after. A romance novel is the equivalent of Porn for Women - pay attention as this is how women are taught to propagate the species ... like it or not almost every post in this forum revolves around this basic theme - how can I move my hookup into a boyfriend, etc. And I’m guessing you would hardly be okay with a boyfriend forbidding you to watch The Bachelor. But regardless, you can’t control his fantasy life, what or who he thinks about, regardless of whether he watches porn. Because it’s 100% that what he is thinking about when he has fantasies is not you, that I can pretty much guarantee. He is fantasizing s about sowing his seed - that’s his primitive man-ape doing the talking. All that said, porn has grown into another thing from the playboy magazines many of us grew up with. It’s to much now. It’s obviously a problem that many guys realize they have grown addicted to. But just understand the compulsion comes from the core of our l