Yes. So a couple things I do. First date is always drinks at a darker bar in a restaurant. Gives off some immediate romantic vibes and alcohol always makes the nerves settle and also looses both of you up. I always go for a hug right off the bat. Break the touch barrier right away. Never had a woman turn me down for a hug. Then just find a good starting topic and start talking. Ask her questions and let her just talk. Interject with any on topic comments you have. Most woman love to talk. They will notice if a man talks way too much or not at all. Honestly aim for almost 75% woman talking and 25% you. Or at least 60/40.
As you are chatting find things to slightly tease her about. Nothing mean or sensitive. An example from a recent first date. This woman had trouble saying the name of this place she wanted to go to in Mexico. So I playfully joked that she will have trouble with my last name as it’s an ethnic name. So I pulled out my drivers license and put in between us and since it’s a small card we both leaned in to look at it and we were rubbing shoulders. Woman that aren’t interested in you won’t want you to invade their space and will keep their distance. In that situation she may put her hand out to grab it and read it. Once that happened I knew I could kind of escalate it. She saw on my license that I am a Junior as I’m named after my father and she asked if I wanted my son to be the 3rd. So I looked at her and said “well if we are talking about our hypothetical future children then I would like to but it’s not a requirement.” When is aid the line about our future children I was looking at her with a smile on my face so she’s know I’m not being serious and I’m not a weirdo. Just a playful joke based on her question. Now based on her smiling back I can go on from there. This girl had a tattoo on her wrist and I asked her about it. She put her arm out towards me so I held her wrist and rubbed the tattoo. Part of flirting and building sexual chemistry with a woman is her allowing you to enter her comfort zone. By kinda cozying up next to her at a bar and other teasing and innocent touching it helps build that. She gave me her number at the end of the date and I texted her like a day and a half later on a Friday to see if she was free on the weekend and she got back to me with her availability and was also even willing to hang out that night. I took that info as her being very interested in me.
The 2nd date was more of the same but I take it a bit further. We were walking into a food hall where we were going to hang out and I just grabbed her hand to hold it. I didn’t do it awkwardly and ask her if it was ok or look down at it and figure out how I’m going to do it. We were just walking in and I nonchalantly grabbed it and kept walking looking forward. She held mine back and looked over at me and gave me a big smile. These are all things that are reinforcing for me that she likes me. So the rest of the date was more conversation interspersed with more flirting. Then as we were walking we got to my car and I stopped. I looked at her and just pulled her in and kissed her. She kissed me back. At the end of the date I set up firm plans for a 3rd date by asking when she was free that week. I want this girl to know I’m confident and straightforward in my interest in her. I don’t want her thinking I’m giving mixed messages.
3rd date was an old school dinner date where we were already getting super comfortable with each other. We enjoyed the dinner and drinks and we went into another bar next door. This is where I took things even further joking about how her mother will love me when I meet her. Obviously I’m half joking but something like that makes her start thinking “hmm could I see this guy meeting my mom and would she like him.” I told her when I meet her I will tell her “now I know where your daughter gets her looks from!” She laughed and told me her mother would love that. Before I know it I’m driving her home and she tells me she has a bottle of wine in her house if I want to come in for a drink and boom I’m staying the night.
The first 2 dates we had plenty of normal get to know you conversations but I sprinkled in flirting and teasing to make her get comfortable. The non sexual touching helps too. You want her getting comfortable with you touching her. As she responded well to each of the things I did I continued to escalate. If she responds poorly to any of those things you rein it back in.