I prefer to approach dating with the mindset that I don't have requirements but rather, preferences. I'm willing to be flexible if one negative is outweighed by several positives. Of course some negatives carry more weight than others.
I did however start to become pickier when using OLD because like you said, I got tired of taking the time and effort to plan something with someone only to be ghosted or get the 'I didn't feel a spark' line. In that regard I started being a little more pickier and looking for that 'fuck yeah' feeling.
Since deleting them I'm going on fewer dates but it seems like the quality is better so I'm more willing to spend time with them to see if my preferences will balance out.