It's not like you need to do all your kinks right off the bat. I have a buddy who for a long time asked to do hardcore anal sex in the first date. Of course that didn't lead him to anywhere with women, because although a lot of them could be interested, those things require a level of confidence and intimacy that you accomplish later in the game. When? That depends on who you date, but it's improbable that you won't do those things with a woman in the first time you have sex with her.

So, basically, you need time to reveal all these things gradually. I don't know what they are but I can certainly imagine to an extent being a guy myself lol. Sometimes they won't be sexually compatible with you and that's fine, you keep looking. I think many women are interested in a lot of kinks, but they usually need more time than men do to allow themselves to try them.