How should I deal with my stepdad who constantly stares at me?

Some of the advice in this thread is simply disgustingly reactionary, extreme, and wrong.

Firstly, the porn. A person's fantasy life, regardless of the subject matter, has no bearing on their reality. I watch the same sorts of porn this guy does, and I don't have kids or stepkids.

Secondly. Just because he's a creep doesn't automatically make him a dangerous person that will act upon his desires. The top comment in this thread is certainly a valid perspective, but finding it as the top comment shows the odd and inaccurate bias in this subreddit.

Lastly. Probably the best advice, or at least opinion, I have found in this thread is that it is wholly inappropriate for an adult man to stare at the underage daughter of his girlfriend like that. I have dated many women who had grown kids, and never have I done something like this, even if they were attractive 19 or 20-somethings. Real, balanced, respectful men know how to turn that side of themselves off when in a situation where they could or would look, but know it is inappropriate and just plain gross.

I don't know that you need to run for the hills just yet. But you need to be prepared to, and you need to speak with your mother in this context. Make her aware of what the boyfriend is doing. Let her know it is unacceptable to you, and that you are willing and able to leave if it continues. Ask her, straight up, does she really want to be with a man that is capable of doing this? Capable of sexualizing his girlfriend's daughter. The best outcome from this would be for the two of you to confront his behavior, and if he cannot make a full 180 adjustment, then he's gotta go, or you gotta go. Be strong. Be direct. Be willing to take charge of your life. Sorry this is happening to you.

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