On the same boat my man. 6 years in marriage, first year was awesome really had it going on all the time but I guess the honeymoon phased out for her. I have suggested many things, I have done many tips or suggestions from articles. Even when we started trying for a kid I thought okay here we go! And It didn’t really increase much. It took till last year to realize that she just is the way she is. Like it’s a check mark in the marriage block. It’s rough, and of course made me feel self conscious as a man but I have realized if I have done “most things in the book” to start the engine up but engine just starts when it wants to than what can I really do? I always feel like the outcast hearing my coworkers talk about how freaky their wives get and I am Always the quiet one.