My question is...what is a diplomatic way to bring up my preferences? I am 100% submissive, through and through, and it's very hard for me to become satisfied sexually without this component.
If it were easy to reveal ourselves, we wouldn't have even half of the problems we do in getting together, that is for certain. I like the fantasy discussion idea most certainly, or the random suggestion thing. And a sober talk of hard limits and things always needs to happen. I've also done the "this excites me" when I've done something to please a woman (I need that myself). I haven't gotten to the point myself where I've had a woman actually take charge of me in that where I'm her simple plaything for her pleasure, but I'm reminded in my hopes that the day comes that no one is a mind-reader and I'm never going to get what I need unless I can articulate it. But I'm a bit anxious at the idea, especially since I've never gotten to that point with a woman.
Maybe nothing helpful there, except in knowing that you aren't alone in your anxiety. Hopefully we both can find all that we need very soon.