It just takes a lot of practice and realizing that it doesn’t throw people off as much as we might think. I’ve been working on asking for things that I want, which has typically been terrifying and paralyzing for me. I’ve asked the person I’m dating to call me, I asked him to make a plan with me for an important trip (even tho he was busy), I told him what I liked and what I wanted when we were shopping so that he could buy it for me, I’ve told him when I’m upset or if he asked and I was too flooded then I asked for time to think about it...aaaaaaand none of it was a big deal. Sure, maybe I freaked out on the inside. But hey, it’s progress.