I hardly talk to him now, i just feel uncomfortable whenever I'm near him.

And, I hear your point about a lot of marriages being based that way, but that wasn't my point. There are things that people share because it makes themselves feel better, but it hurts the people they are sharing with. If my father cared about how my brother felt, he would've taken his feelings into consideration. My parents got a divorce. After hearing this my brother thought everything was his fault. My dad has no compassion. So there was no reassuring or consoling my brother after sharing this with him.

In 12 step programs there's an amends process where you admit your wrong-doing to people, but you are very cautious not to do so if you think it will cause harm.

The truth is a good thing, but sharing it because it makes someone feel better at the expense of someone else is selfish.

My father is pure ego. Pure selfishness.

I have very little sympathy for him.

He has chosen to be this way.

He knows the difference between right and wrong.

I do blame him for a lot of things. I blame him for the way my brother feels about myself after having been abused all of these years. I blame him for a lot of the reason why my mother went crazy when i was younger. But, I blame him most of all because he has absolutely no sense of wrong-doing. He has not repented once for anything.

He is a highly dysfunctional man, but he knows exactly what he's doing.