Understood, but this isn’t so much about changing him but about how to change my own mindset.

Am I supposed to be amicable about the fact that he doesn’t think getting his best friend drunk a few years ago to take advantage of him is bad? Or that he laughed afterward about how the guy rejected him on his next advance?

There’s so much catty behavior, and I’m a really direct person, and in my family growing up, if you were being a bitch, you had to acknowledge it. That doesn’t mean you aren’t loved; it means you’re loved enough to know that you can change for the better.

But, noooo. If I am not at least indifferent, then he feels attacked.

Perhaps I dislike sensitive people. Idk. I just dislike how people can endlessly parry moral resolution.