This is my problem too, because guys consistently tell me how much they like me, how much they feel emotions for me they don't feel for anyone else, how they feel lucky to have me in their life... Talking about making long term plans, etc, but then if you ask them to actually put a name on the relationship after a few months of this, they won't. I guess I'm amazing, just not quite amazing ENOUGH for these guys to not feel like they'd be settling or losing out by committing to me... Either that or they just want the girlfriend experience without the girlfriend. Either way, having so many guys tell me they were looking for something serious with me when they weren't... Now I overthink interest and motivation to the level I almost don't see a point in engaging with new guys who try to pursue me. I just can't tell if they're being honest or not about their intentions and I'm tired of getting run around so I try to be alert and awake and look out for warning signs... But the end result of that is I overthink like crazy. Ugh.

Someone once told me that guys try to make the girl fall for them before they decide if they even want her or not, and honestly that's how it feels. Like as soon as I say okay, I like you enough to want to only see you, that's their win condition so they're done with me. They want to see if they can win the next match.