How to support my husband’s mental health?

In the last stages we just get really quiet, and accepting of everything.

There isn't any point in expending any energy trying to push mountains; everything is a mountain, on all sides. Closing in and constricting. It's easier to just not fight and continue to circle the drain.

My wife tells me to cheer up, but why lie? She says get over it, my question is why be faced with getting over something, that really shouldn't even be a thing if people behaved with consideration.

Point is, after a while the only thing worth spending money on, the only goal and white light at the end is the white light of a plan.

Once someone has already drowned, they give up struggling to keep swimming. Once their will gives out their body is just a weight helping the light to be smothered.

I feel empathy toward the thoughts like "I can't make myself happy" when I find I'm presented with so many situations where it seems unfairly weighted against me. I feel fatigued over being criticised for having bad breath and debris between my teeth while being goaded into smiling while eating a poo sandwich and ridiculed for having such a terrible attitude over being presented consistently with as much.

Dark stuff, forboding places. Help him, before he helps himself thinking it's for everybody's best interest.

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