How to survive?

i’m sorry for your loss. i lost a close friend 12 years ago.

it fucking sucks. it is horrific.

i think i was in something like shock for two years, tbh. like a perpetual state of numbness or simply living on automatic.

two things help me live:

  1. my faith in jesus.

  2. learning to accept the feelings as they come, allowing myself to feel them, not rejecting them or hiding from them and then getting up off the floor and moving forward with life. it’s a rhythm for me: feeling the deep hurt/sorrow, then getting up again, then feeling deep hurt, then getting up again, etc.

i’m always going to love my friend and i’m always going to miss him and lament what he did and that he’s no longer here, so i can’t run from the pain, it’s gonna follow me. but i can still live, ultimately b/c of jesus (i’m not proselytizing you, just sharing) and b/c there is still beauty here, i still have people to love here (and can meet new ppl to love), people who love me too.

also, you’re not a loser for living with your parents. in reality much of the world lives in intergenerational households (with their parents or inlaws).

/r/SuicideBereavement Thread