How do I make talking to people fun?

Why I didn't enjoy talking to people? My insecurity if being judged for anything and everything. Don't like to go out, don't like to travel, watch tv series and movies all weekend. I felt I was missing out on something.

Enter my psychologist. Took personality disorder test. Found that I'm schizoid and avoidant. She digged more about why I eat my lunches alone and avoid female co-workers at work out of fear of misunderstanding something stupid and ruin chilled office life.

She said there are good people and bad people. We can't live in fear of making a mistake, not just social situation. And about female co-workers, do/say it everything in front of everybody(yeah, to get over the my fear initially at least)

So, decided to dive right into it. Chose different people different subject. Somebody plays game? Do gaming talk to him. Somebody watches tv series your watch? Discuss that shit to death or suggest/get suggestion for new series. That's about dealing with people with common interest.

Now, people who don't share your interest. e.g. found someone who loves to travel. Ask about last trip, Ask them why the fuck they can't sit in room in weekends like normal person. Show genuine interest. Make fun of them for choosing ineffective life style, increasing carbon foot print and causing global warming. Basically, over exaggerating things and laughing over it WITH THEM does the trick.

You like some sport and they like something else. Shit all over their sport and prove why what you love it greatest sport in earth. Don't get serious about facts and figure. More vague the better.

This I'd you having fun winning everything fun arguments.

What if they come up better point in their favor? Make it even sillier stupider counter point.

Take nothing seriously. If you find somebody getting defensive about any of this dumb shit. Accept his argument and change to some lighter subject. Like white people. :P

This is all good when somebody is playing along with you. What to do with somebody born as asshole who need to bring you down to feel good about themselves? Cut them off. Immediately. Not tomorrow or day after that. If he is co worker, tell him clearly let's talk nothing but work only when needed. If they enter any fun argument you are having someone who us actually cool with you. Tell him, sorry man, I can't argue your point. Back out and or continue talking to original cool dude you were talking to.

Rinse and repeat.

Avoid touchy subject religion, race, politics, abortion, economics/finance. At least in the beginning.

Remember: Finding even one person who accept you for what are is more than enough. You don't need to party every night to have fun. It's doing whatever shit you love.

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